Right now I feel my friendship, (in the singular sense 
) is very equal. They won't step outside of their comfort zones for me, and I won't for them, even if there is/has been any degree of idealisation anywhere there are also clear boundaries. One of the reasons I respect them as a person is because of that, ironically whether they see them self as being able to do that or not, they actually do.
Most of my friends in the past have been boundary-less glue/mirrors, and weirdly i don't get that off my friend at all (not in relation to me anyway.) They haven't melted into my personality/requirements and just gone with whatever I say, they're very much their own person, however confusing that experience might be, or whether who they are isn't fixed or expressed directly in the same way. Oddly when people talk about not knowing who they really are, there's still a very clear boundary of individuality and the end result of their behaviour is still to demand personal respect.
I suppose that could sound contradictory... it is possibly because they don't do it in a directly assertive (or necessarily the best way they could for them self), but the end result is that I can't walk all over them, and that there are 2 people involved not just one.
The DSM let me off on a technicality.
Source: http://www.psychforums.com/antisocial-personality/topic98968.html
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